This type of situation/story is all too common; Wives who have no idea their husband is Gay/Bi, or for that matter Trans (or CDs as I once did). I see it all the time on a web site for older Gays. Years ago when I was clearing out my Dads palce after he passed, I came across some things that claerly indicated to me he was either Gay, or had a serious Bi streak,. Sad, but at least technology now allows folks to connect, w/o the added risks of things like cruising parks and rest stops,,.