Many years back, I reacall learning that there were 3 main reasons for sex: It was procreational(makes babies, of course). It was recreational; It felt was fun and felt good. And that it was, relational. Meaning that it was the glue that helped two people to bond together. Ive also learned since transitioning from male to female, that orgasms arent the end all that they used to be. Theyre still fabulous when they happen, but its a failure, or anyones fault, if they dont. So long as I know that Ive pleased my partner as best I can, Im happy :)