Im sure this is all too relatable for many of us. When I was about 11, 1970, my Mom found a bra that I had in my room. She wasnt being nosy, it was my fault for not securing the box I had it stashed in. I came home from school one day and she told me about it. I wasnt punished, but she tried to let me know in the best language she had at the time, it was not cool for me to have that. I never got to come out to my Mom. I think she would have liked having a daughter. She passed 10 years ago, a few years before I came out, after many years of shame and guilt over the feelings I hid.