I understand what you are getting at, but speaking just for myself, I dont have a serious problem w/ being referred to as a "Tranny". I suspect this largely breaks across age lines, as Ive noticed other older Trans Gurls say the same thing. And TBH, when I was younger, it was one of the lesser slurs that could be thrown at us. I can also recall having various Gay slurs directed at me, but they never stuck, as I knew I wasnt Gay,. Ive also heard, "Tranny" referred to as our version of the "N" word, that is we can say it among ourselves, but usually dont like others using it,.